Ahhh, the ever-famous, bewildering concept of “a friend with benefits” has haunted our youthful society for decades now. The idea you can have a friend, add sex to the mix and keep emotional attachment out of it is paradoxical enigma (big words ;). I can’t imagine it is possible for this to be a healthy practice. Or can it? My husband is my friend and we certainly have “benefits”…so essentially, my hubby is “my best friend with benefits”.
At the core of my relationship with the hubs are two things- our friendship with God and our friendship with each other. I love hanging out with him because we have so much fun together. He makes me laugh harder than anyone I know. He is simply the coolest person to be around. We just get each other… and the “benefits” are simply wonderful. But that’s just it- they wouldn’t be as wonderful if we didn’t have that friendship.
Physical intimacy without emotional and spiritual intimacy with your partner can harm rather than enhance your relationship. Don’t be afraid to make this a “non-negotiable” when it comes to your relationship(s). Regardless of your status-married, dating, single- require you and your partner to be “friends with benefits”. Trust me, it is SOOOO worth it.
Nicki G. The Blissful Wife