I Wish I Knew…

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The other day, I found myself admiring my husband. Of course, he didn’t know…as a matter of fact, as he reads this he probably wants to crawl under a rock and hide; but the truth is- Yes, I was secretly looking at him and admiring his beauty-inside and out. My whimsical brain took me to a place where I rarely visit these days- my teenage years.

I sat there and thought about myself in middle and high school and while I knew we weren’t ready to meet back then, it would have been fun to have him as a high school boyfriend. We would have gone to prom together and to the movies on a Friday night. I would have gone to his baseball games and been his biggest fan. We would have done stuff high school kids did and I think it would’ve been fun.

So, since I didn’t know him back then, I decided we would do stuff now that we would have done back then.

Some of the things on my list are:

  •  Act like crazy teenagers and have carefree fun
  •  Kiss and make out like crazy and then force ourselves to not go any further 😉 Maybe…LOL.
  •  I am gonna drag him to my school’s High School Prom- but as chaperones
  •  Share different memories from way back when-good and bad

I guess I will add to my list as I go…It should be fun. I challenge you to try it out!

I am open to suggestions if you all come up with some.

Blissful Living Friends,

Nicki G. The Blissful Wife


Meeting the Parents

Our People 😉

The first time I met Javy’s family I was nervous.  Boy was I nervous.  I have always been good with people and I seem to have a way with them…but this was different. I wanted to marry this guy.  I wanted these people to be my peoplemy family– What if they didn’t like me?

Two years ago tomorrow will be the anniversary of us meeting and I have to say it has been as blissful as my relationship with Javy.  However, I am not just talking about his biological family- when I say “family” I am also referring to his work family, his friends, all of ‘his people’.

Meeting the family is always nerve wrecking.  These are your partner’s “people”.  Whether biological or not, there opinion of you matters.  A LOT.  Those ominous questions haunt you- Will they like me? Do I look OK?

You want to make a good impression because you’re really into your partner.  I have a few tips on making a good impression:

  • Bring Something:  I remember on the way to meeting Javy’s family, I begged him to stop at a Windixee to buy his grandmother a potted plant, his mom flowers, and his grandpa lotto tickets.  Was I trying to buy their love?  Yes.  Plain and Simple.  LOL, I wanted to impress them and people love gifts, so why not?  But honestly speaking, by bringing something whether it be a gift, a bottle of wine, a desert you are showing the importance this meeting merits.  Take from the Indians and Pilgrims, always bring something.
  • Be Yourself:  Your guy or girl loves you just the way you are.  They want their family to meet that cool person they have been dating, not a fake.  So make sure you are yourself.  I am willing to bet if you are reading this you are hot, funny, witty, and simply perfect- so you will have no problem rocking it.
  • Don’t Let your Nerves Get the Best of You:  Nerves make you sweat in places I would rather not mention. They make your voice hit a pitch you really don’t recognize and sometimes they make you say things that just aren’t you.  So relax, breathe easy and just be you.

Meeting the parents is a significant step in your relationship.  It is important to make a great impression, but don’t be fake.  You have one shot at making a first impression and what better way to do it than to be yourself.  Trust me, all they want more than anything is for their son or daughter to be loved and respected, so if you do that then you are a shoe in…Unless they are crazy, but that is a totally different article. 😉

Blissful Love,
Nicki G. The Blissful Wife

P.S. Kudos to Mama Kats who was the inspiration behind this entry.  Please feel free to share your stories…I would love to hear them! 😉

Happy Timing

Picture credited of The Giggling Truckers Wife

Time is what we want most, but what we use worst~ William Penn

I guess it is appropriate to write about “time management” since I have taken a three-day hiatus.
I sincerely apologize for that and please allow me to explain.  Today is the last day of school! Woohoo!  School = Work…so this is a very positive thing.  However, the end of the year always brings stresses and tasks that require an effective way to manage your time.  Sometimes we are good at this and sometimes we just aren’t.

I can attest to this.

However, this skill is essential to our lives and our relationships.  Like the quote says- time is what we want most, but we use worst.

So, let’s change that.

I always feel guilty when I rob the ones I love the most of my time.  In particular, my husband.  Not only do I miss him terribly when said actions occur, but I feel like a “bad wife”.  Monday I spent the entire night grading papers.  Sure, he was right next to me and we watched TV, but my mind just “wasn’t there”…we do that, you know?  Physically we are there, but mentally we are somewhere else.

You don’t have to be in a relationship to fall into this “we-don’t-have-enough-time-to-live-the-way-we-want-to” rut.  We give the world around us more time than we give ourselves and our loved ones.  Today I come with a hefty challenge for you-Create Time!!! Or better yet, use the time you currently have better.  This has to be a committed choice because it is certainly a difficult task.  There are moments when we simply can’t help it, hence my hiatus…but more often than not, there is room for a better use of our time- think time wasted on Facebook, Gossip, and my personal favorite- having to do things more than once because I rushed through something the first time.

So friends, happy timing…literally! Enjoy your loved ones and yourself more today!