Our People 😉
The first time I met Javy’s family I was nervous. Boy was I nervous. I have always been good with people and I seem to have a way with them…but this was different. I wanted to marry this guy. I wanted these people to be my people–my family– What if they didn’t like me?
Two years ago tomorrow will be the anniversary of us meeting and I have to say it has been as blissful as my relationship with Javy. However, I am not just talking about his biological family- when I say “family” I am also referring to his work family, his friends, all of ‘his people’.
Meeting the family is always nerve wrecking. These are your partner’s “people”. Whether biological or not, there opinion of you matters. A LOT. Those ominous questions haunt you- Will they like me? Do I look OK?
You want to make a good impression because you’re really into your partner. I have a few tips on making a good impression:
- Bring Something: I remember on the way to meeting Javy’s family, I begged him to stop at a Windixee to buy his grandmother a potted plant, his mom flowers, and his grandpa lotto tickets. Was I trying to buy their love? Yes. Plain and Simple. LOL, I wanted to impress them and people love gifts, so why not? But honestly speaking, by bringing something whether it be a gift, a bottle of wine, a desert you are showing the importance this meeting merits. Take from the Indians and Pilgrims, always bring something.
- Be Yourself: Your guy or girl loves you just the way you are. They want their family to meet that cool person they have been dating, not a fake. So make sure you are yourself. I am willing to bet if you are reading this you are hot, funny, witty, and simply perfect- so you will have no problem rocking it.
- Don’t Let your Nerves Get the Best of You: Nerves make you sweat in places I would rather not mention. They make your voice hit a pitch you really don’t recognize and sometimes they make you say things that just aren’t you. So relax, breathe easy and just be you.
Meeting the parents is a significant step in your relationship. It is important to make a great impression, but don’t be fake. You have one shot at making a first impression and what better way to do it than to be yourself. Trust me, all they want more than anything is for their son or daughter to be loved and respected, so if you do that then you are a shoe in…Unless they are crazy, but that is a totally different article. 😉
Nicki G. The Blissful Wife
P.S. Kudos to Mama Kats who was the inspiration behind this entry. Please feel free to share your stories…I would love to hear them! 😉