What makes a Lady?

Picture courtesy of Donna Irene Photography

Today I had the unfortunate task of having to drop off Miss Molly Marie to be spayed. On the verge of my little baby becoming a teen, we chose the soundest medical option to protect her in the future- removing her lady-parts. Sitting in the dedicated, yet slightly impersonal Humane Society, I started to ponder, “What makes a lady?” Sure God graced us with curves, breasts and the miraculous ability to bring life to this world, yet does that sum up our womanhood?

I recently attended a Blogging 101 course and witnessed the epitome of femininity and class. A beautiful dark-skinned woman stood up and proudly proclaimed with an incredible amount of self-love, confidence and class- “I have NO breast!” A recent Breast Cancer survivor, this inspiring young woman had lost what many believe “defines” a woman, yet displayed the essence of a lady more than anyone I had ever encountered.

I was so proud of this perfect stranger. She exuded courageousness and beauty. I thought to myself, “Wow, if all women could love themselves as much as she loved herself, then this world would be a much better place.” She inspired me…I felt grateful for my health and my life. I felt blessed to witness such an awe-inspiring moment. So, today as I dropped off my pup, I thought of her and I offered up a prayer for her and all my fellow sisters.

May we always walk proud and practice loving ourselves more; for it is in that we are more able to better love others.

Blissful Love,

Nicki G. The Blissful Wife

P.S. Shout out some prayers for my baby- I will update you all ;).

Blissful Rejuvenations from Paradise


Backdrop- Norman Island where we snorkeled 🙂

We are in the final leg of our island getaway and it has been incredible.  We are still boating to different islands around the British Virgin Islands and we are having a great time.  Our sea-legs are stronger than ever and our tans are super fierce.  Like everything in life, I have learned so much.  Island-life is so different than Miami-life, hell than any type of life.

So here are some of my lessons learned:

  • Never, ever try to rush an Islander!  They are not used to the hustle and bustle as we are, so when you are anxious to eat in the islands- be nice, patient, and drink a few Pina Coladas to hold you over.
  • The world is filled with incredible sites.  The pictures we see on the Internet truly do not lie.  They exist.  I have seen them on this trip and it is hard to describe the beauty in God’s creations.
  • Relaxation is essential and totally necessary.  By nature, I am not a totally relaxed person- until I got to the islands.  They do something to you, perhaps it is in the water…maybe it is in the drinks…but in the islands relax you.
  • Sometimes the water can be choppy and storms casually show up, but they pass and you always weather the storm.
  • I need to find a way to become rich so I can be on vacation in the islands 300 out of the 365 days in the year…Who’s with me? 😉

Blissful Blessings Friends!

See you soon 😉

Nicki G. The Blissful Wife

Letting Go and Enjoying

Picture courtesy of Pine Designs

During my vacation I have learned a very valuable lesson- Sometimes you just have to let go and enjoy.  I have noticed this is the “island mentality”.  Life is too short to take so seriously and if you are busy controlling its very aspect, you will miss out on all the fun.  I have known many people who go through life controlling the people in their lives, their situations, and/or anything they possibly can.  More often than not, it is done with good intentions.  Yet not anything or anyone enjoys being controlled and eventually resentment forms.  Friends, be secure in your life.  Trust that sometimes life has a silly whimsical way of working itself out.  Even when it doesn’t because sometimes it won’t- I think I just channeled Dr. Seuss ;).  Whatever the outcome results in, IT WILL be something you can handle- trust me.  In the wise words of Woody Allen, “If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans“.

So friends, if you are trying to micro-manage every aspect of your life- stop, take a deep breath, and let it go.

Blissful Blessings,

Nicki G. The Blissful Wife

3 Summer Revelations

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One of the perks of being a teacher is the fact you always have “Summer Mode” to look forward to. No matter how trying the school year becomes, June, July and some of August are always a sure bet. It is probably one of the few factors why people envy teachers. Hell, we certainly know it isn’t our salaries. LOL.

So, as I write you from the airport preparing to fly to the beautiful island of St. Thomas and then take a cruise throughout the US Virgin Islands, I am toatlly in Summer Mode; hence today’s Revelations.

These are dedicated to ‘your Summer Mode’. Whether it be a week, weekend, or a few months long. Reminisce on your childhood summer memories or your favorite vacations. It is sure to bring a smile to your face.

1. One must maintain a little bit of summer, even in the middle of winter ~Abraham Lincoln

2. “It’s a smile, it’s a kiss, it’s a sip of wine…it’s summertime” ~ Kenny Chesney

3. Live, Laugh, Love…all throughout the year.

Friends, I bid you adeu for a bit. I promise to post as soon as I can.

Blissful Blessings,

Nicki G. The Blissful Wife

Bucket List Monday

In the hustle and bustle of life we all need to leave room for dreams and aspirations.  For at least a short second, forget the 4×6 cubicles, the tyrant bosses, and life’s tedious obligations and dream.  What would you do today if money was no object and work wasn’t an issue?  Where would you go?  Who would you take a long for the ride?

Before you get caught up in the work day, take a few seconds to pick out 3 Travel Bucket List activities you want to accomplish before you leave this world.  Make these your goals to get through this Monday; hell, think BIG, make them some of your goals to accomplish in life.  Give them the purpose they deserve.

Here are mine:

Picture courtesy of South Pacific Vacations

Obviously this is not me and that is not my husband.  For one the man in this picture has hair and the girl is a size 2…neither of which describes me nor my hubby.  However, we envision ourselves like this lovely couple- relaxing in a Tahitian Paradise.  Originally this was going to be our Honeymoon destination but due to time and funds restraints we had to change the plan.  Now, it is on our bucket list…One day my size 14 and my hubby’s bald head will enjoy this magnificent island.

Santorini, Greece Picture courtesy of  Pretty Clever Bride

We want to see Greece-at night, during the day, at sunrise and sunset!  I can’t wait to one day sit in one of these incredible villas with my husband and watch the sunset.  We want to dive into the breathtaking water and eat their heavenly meals.

Campania, Italy Picture courtesy of I Like to Waste my Time

We dream of visiting the amazing country of Italy one day.  Ever since I saw the movie Under the Tuscan Sun, I fell in love with the idea of Italy.  I had always had a love affair with a country I knew little about and then after seeing it on the big screen, my amore was only solidified.  I want to eat oysters in the town of Positano, pictured above.  My husband and I want to walk the streets socializing with the locals while sharing a gelato.  We want to visit St. Peter’s Square and Vatican City. I want to attend Mass in a church older than my great, great, great grandpa.  We want to have romantic dinners under the Italian sky and visit The Colosseum.  We want to experience the magic of the  Grotta Azura and so much more.

Do I have you dreaming of your travels yet?  We all want to accomplish so much in life.  I for one want to be a stay-at-home-author- mom one day and continue to be the best wife I can.  I want to become a grandma and I want to change the world.  Those are all great bucket list goals.   But today I selfishly challenge you to focus a little on you and your dreams of traveling.  Whether single, attached, married, or somewhere in between- Where in the World do YOU want to Go?

Blissful Travels my Friends,

Nicki G. The Blissful Wife

5 Blissful Revelations by a Few Good Men

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Ever wonder what the good guys say when us girls are not around? This week’s Blissful Revelations are dedicated to just that- Some classy men, some before our time, seemed to have it spot on.

1. Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves. ~ Albert Einstein

2. It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or his foe, that lures him to evil ways. ~ Buddha

3. You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly. ~Sam Keen

4. A weak man is just by accident. A strong but non-violent man is unjust by accident. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

5. The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention. ~Richard Warren

5 Blissful Revelations

Photo courtesy of Donna Irene Photography
  • Be nice and compliment people.  Yesterday after dropping my phone and breaking it into 53 little pieces I was irately walking to the Sprint store.  I didn’t look particularly look happy and suddenly this fiercely fashionable older woman sporting a zany hat and hot pink spandex stops me in my tracks.  These were her sweet gentle words- “Well young lady, isn’t that a pretty dress you’re wearing; it just looks so lovely”.  That made me smile.  It also reminded me to compliment others…so here goes, “Blissful Friend, your smile is so contagious” 😉
  • Determination pays off.  Congrats to the new NBA Champions The Miami Heat who rocked a thunderous win last night
  • Gloomy Days=Perfect Cuddle Time.  I can’t wait for my hubs to get home so we can get our comfy pjs on and cuddle with our princess.
  • Being in love when your 90 is the most romantic thing EVER.  I can’t wait to get there!
  • Sometimes things don’t work out because they are just not supposed to.  There is always something better out there; stay hopeful and all will work itself out, but no matter what- DON’T LOSE HOPE.

5 Rejuvenating Revelations my Daddy Taught Me

Picture courtesy of Alina M. Photography

I am a self-proclaimed Daddy’s Girl…and proud of it. My dad has taught and continues to teach me so much about life and love. He isn’t alone though…my beautiful mom has contributed equally to my life lessons, just in a more delicate, lady-like fashion.

So Sunday we celebrate all the dads, all the moms who play dad roles, and of course, how can we leave out the grandads, present and smiling down from above, uncles, brothers, etc.

I also dedicate this post to the future daddy of my babies and Molly Marie’s hero, my amazing hubby.

But in particular, this post goes out to my first hero, my first prince, my dad.

1. The first time I ever stole something (a Mickey Mouse eraser from a local Cuban mercado/supermarket) my dad not only caught me…he drove me back to the store, marched my criminal-sobbing butt into the store and fess up to my unlawful offense. I learned much about that incident…1. Mickey just isn’t worth a stint in Disney Jail 2. I may get away with somethings in life, but certainly not things that go against who I am and my moral upbringing.

2. My Life: My Choices: My Consequences– My dad taught me no matter what happens in the world around me, I am still responsible for my actions and choices. If I make a poor choice, I can’t blame anyone but myself…So True!

3. In his best moments and his more undesirable occasions, he taught me I always need to give excellence and expect to receive it as well. He made me the girl who didn’t settle for a worm, rather believe with all my heart that my prince would come in and sweep me off my feet and play the perfect leading-man role.

He was also the amazing daddy and friend who two weeks into dating my future husband, sobbed when I told him I had met my soulmate and then dished out a crap-load of money (which came with an over-abundance of hard work and sacrifice) to give my love and me the perfect wedding.

4. Always being the struggling student, sometimes I thought I would never pass my 3rd grade spelling test, but he knew I would. Years later, when I needed to be tutored to get the appropriate score to be accepted into grad school, he and my mom paid for a tutor, never batting an eye that I was 24 years old and could/should very well be responsible for that financial burden. They never doubted I would graduate with a Masters. Both my parents always knew I had it in me…even when I didn’t.

5. Summarizing all I have learned from my dad is way too hard. But, above all, my dad has taught me to be the best me I can be…He is always learning, always trying to be better, and always reading…Each of these great lessons have been passed on to me and for that I will be forever thankful.

As the saying goes though, ‘behind every great man is an equally great woman’. So I know my mom had all to do with shaping my dad into the exemplerary father he is. Woman can do a lot, but the heart of gold my dad has comes straight from him…That love and compassion isn’t taught- it is a gifted to you by the good Lord and my dad has certainly worked magic with this little girl.

Blissful Living my Friends,

Daddy’s Blissful Little Girl

P.S. A shout out filled with love and appreciation for Mama Kats and her Writing Prompt challenge!!

Five Rejuvenating Revelations

Everything you ever needed to know came in the children’s books you were read in kindergarten.  So in honor of the arrival of Summer Vacation here are some revelations to get you revved up for this blissfully fun season and through this Friday.

  • “A little consideration, a little Though for Others, makes all the difference.”  ~Winnie the Pooh
  • “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Suess
  • “Inside all of us is a wild thing” ~Maurice Sendak
  • Listen to the mustn’ts, child.  Listen to the don’ts.  Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts.  Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me…ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN, CHILD.  ANYTHING CAN BE.” ~Shel Silverstein
  • “Today is your day!  Your mountain is waiting…So, go!  Get on your way!” ~Dr. Suess

Friday Rejuvenating Revelations

Graduation…awwwe.  Makes you think of those stress-free times when all you had to worry about was getting a half-decent SAT score and into a good college.  Things have changed and these days teenagers have more to deal with than the average adult realizes.  So, today’s Friday Rejuvenating Revelations are dedicated to my niece who graduates high school today, as well as all my high school kiddies, who are also donning the cap and gown and growing up!

5 Rejuvenating Revelations for those Graduating into Adulthood: 

  • Life only gets better from here:  Trust me- if you think your High School years were the best days of your life, you are sorely mistaken.  You are in for the ride of your life with tons of fun, wise lessons, and blissful experiences along the way. 

 

  • Congratulations! Today is your day. You’re off to Great Places! You’re off and away!  You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own And you know what you know. You are the guy who’ll decide where to go. ~Dr. Seuss
  • Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.  Live the life you have imagined. ~Henry David Thoreau

 

  • Never travel faster than your Guardian Angel can fly ~ Mother Teresa

 

  • It is our choices…that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.~Albus Dumbledore

 I used to be afraid of change.  I used to be so scared to grow up and grow older…turns out life is like fine wine and it truly gets better with age.  So, friends, whatever beautiful horizon you find yourself facing today- embrace it.

To all the graduates out there, the world is yours to do with it what you want, but with that comes a great responsibility.  You have a gift, a beautiful treasure that lies within only you.  It is your duty to discover, share, and nurture its growth.  Make this world a better place.

Blissful Living,
Nicki G. The Blissful Wife